The Negotiation Guru

In my previous post, I have described to you the Socratic Method to question and influence the other party. Let me use an example to illustrate to you:

Suppose you had to negotiate with your colleague about the expansion strategy my company should be taking. Let just say he had supported expansion plan A. You would need to first decide on a strategy and try to get him to agree to my proposal. This would require him to admit that his proposal was not feasible and had little chance of success. Definitely not an easy feat.

Opposing him and refusing his proposal directly will send a very strong signal to him. You should refrain from revealing your true intentions. Began by agreeing with him on his proposal and encouraged him to elaborate more. Like Socrates, start asking questions which seemingly skirted the main topic. This way, you could slowly catch them in their inconsistencies.

Assuming let’s just say that his main point was that his expansion plan would bring the company global, bringing in more clients from all over the world. It would result in fast expansion of the company. Get them committed to what they had said by rephrasing.

“So you are saying that going with the global expansion plan will bring in more clients for the company? Am I right on this?”

From there, start finding weaknesses in his claim.

“Do you know of any similar companies which had taken on such expansion plans before?”

“What are the costs for executing such a grand plan?”

“Do you know if other companies which expanded took this route we have on our table now?” (notice i use “we”, this sends a subtle signal to him that you agree with his plan and will help him open up to you.”

“Did this work for our company previously?”

“What are the concerns that we have to look into before we take on this plan?”

“Are there any pitfalls we should avoid?”

“How much do we have to invest and is the ROI worth it at this stage?”

“Will we bring in new problems?”

“What would happen if we execute this plan differently?”

“How would you have ensured the success of this plan?”

The final attack:
“Is it right to execute such a plan that has so much risks involved with no guarantee of success?”

What I am really trying to do is to find weak points in this proposal. Framing it in such a way that you would hope his plan to succeed as much as he did. Having so many weak points built up at the end of the discussion, adopting his proposal might not seem feasible anymore. Ultimately, you are bringing him from Point A to Point B to Point C.

We are not trying to trick another person into believing something else. You believed that his plan was flawed and you wanted him to communicate that to him. Hitting him face on would make him defensive and reactive. Using the Socratic Method would help open him up to possibilities that he might be wrong.

Remember: Ask questions that will navigate the other party towards a position you want him to be.

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Jens Thang
Negotiation Skills for Everyone

Email: jens@thenegotiationguru.com

The problem with many negotiators is that they do not direct their questions towards a certain purpose. The art of questioning has to be strategic. To be truly prepared, you need to put some thoughts and time into the type of questions you direct to the other party. Work out the questions with a strategic plan in mind.

Many negotiators believe that by proving inconsistency in the other party is strategic and tactical. They cannot be further from being strategic. When you show that you are trying to provoke them in your questions, you turn on the defensive mode of the other party. You put them on guard and that is not something you want to achieve during a negotiation. As the other party starts to get defensive and closes up to any form of conversation, the negotiation will go nowhere.

The true art is to make the other party open up to you. Lower their defense wall. And attack from a direction they did not anticipate.

Let me introduce the Socratic Method

This wonderful method requires you to understand both the viewpoint of the other party and HOW he came to that conclusion. By truly understanding the other party’s position, you will be able to identify the weak areas and start ripping them apart in a subtle way.

How do you apply the Socratic Method to negotiation?

First, begin by letting the other party express his interest and his decision. Ask him how he would like the negotiation to be resolved. Appear to agree with him at first and acknowledge whatever they are saying to be valid.

Start asking questions that presumably fringed on the main topic of the negotiation, but attacked the weak points into everything the other party has put out during the initial stage of the negotiation.

What you are trying to achieve, is not only to influence the other party to change his initial stand on the issue. But also make it appear to be his own idea.

With this, you truly convince.

You can still hold on to your initial viewpoint but the key is really to act like others. People do not like to believe that they are wrong. They always think that their decision is the best and they strongly believe in it. By proposing a challenge to their belief, you are attacking their ego. Again, you want them to tear down their own position and not build a wall around it.

With this Socratic Method, you will be able to question anyone’s fundamental beliefs in any topic. And of course, essential in negotiations.

Think about how you would apply the Socratic Method for your next negotiation. Email me your thoughts and results. We will evaluate them together.

Remember: Never challenge the other party’s position and viewpoint. Apply the Socratic Method to tear him down.

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Jens Thang
Negotiation Skills for Everyone

Email: jens@thenegotiationguru.com